Ministry can be very lonely. The isolation of rural ministry adds to that loneliness. This is why I really appreciate the friends I have in ministry. They get it. They understand that some things just cannot be shared with other members of your church or friends in the community. And sometimes even if you did, they wouldn’t really get it. But the friend who is also a pastor with a few years under his belt gets it because he has been there too.
A friend of mine who is a pastor in our church plant in a neighboring town just stopped by. He came specifically to check up on me. He knows that I have been going through some difficult times and wanted to just come and talk and listen and to pray for me. I love it when a pastor-friend stands with me in life and in ministry.
I also have some friends in the church who lift me up with their friendship – and often their humor. There are some times where the friend who stands with me doesn’t have to be someone who understands ministry, just someone who knows me and cares about my mental and emotional health.
And I love the boards and leadership teams I have worked with where they aren’t just all about the business of getting the job done. I have had some of these who really cared about how I was doing as well. It’s good to work alongside people who care about you as much or more than the task at hand.
Who’s standing with you?
Do you have someone who will come and encourage you when you need it? Do you have people in your life who are connected enough with you that they will even know when you need some encouragement. Some of the isolation and loneliness in ministry is our own fault. We don’t trust others enough to allow them to get to know us. If they don’t know us they will not be able to stand with us in a meaningful way.
Who’s standing with you?
And…who are you standing with?
As much as I need encouragement and support from time to time, so do others. Are we so caught up in our concerns that we miss when someone needs a phone call or a visit.
We are looking at the “one another” statements from the Bible for our summer sermons series. God has created the church as a place where we should be walking through life together with other believers. If you are living and ministering in loneliness and isolation, make sure that its not your own fault. Take time to reach out to someone so you can encourage them and so they might be there for you when you need it.
Yesterday I had the privilege of hosting the local ministerial. Actually, all the ministers are from then next town north of our little town of Carseland. I’m the only one from my town, but we take turns meeting at everyone’s church,so they all drive out of their town of 13,000 and come down to our community of 650 to meet for our monthly meeting in my little church. That in itself is an encouragement to me.
But one lady came in and gave me an envelope from her senior pastor he was not able to attend. I was curious, thinking it was maybe a late Christmas card, but it wasn’t! It was an encouragement card. This pastor, whom I haven’t been able to get to know all that well as he is a little newer, and who couldn’t make it to the meeting went out of his way to hand write a not of encouragement to me! And it wasn’t just something generic.
Glenn wrote, “…over the last couple of months from multiple people I’ve heard of the depth of your character, genuineness of your commitment and the quality of ministry in Carseland.” Wow! He added a few more things, but that really lifted me up.
I love to be encouraged. I need it. But I know I don’t do enough of it. We all need someone to tell us that they appreciate us and love us and think we are doing a good job. Hopefully my little celebration of my encouragement might encourage you and I to do more of that for others!
I am having one of the greatest privileges of my life right now. I am writing while on a “field trip” to North Carolina.
I am on a team with 3 other pastors who lead the Rural Church Pastors Network. We have had the privilege of spending a couple of days with pastors and professors connected to the Duke Divinity School at Duke University. What a great opportunity to learn as we got to visit with three United Methodist pastors and learned how God was working in their churches. It was encouraging to see their passion for rural ministry, their joy of the Holy Spirit, and their love for what they are doing. We were able to sit in on a chapel at Duke as well as help lead a Rural Thriving Communities colloquium on the campus of Duke.
And now we had a day of touring both the Billy Graham Library and the Cove. These are a great tribute to the man and a celebration of what God has done as Billy has faithfully preached Jesus. Billy is nearing the end of his life, but there are many who are continuing the work and ministry of what was begun by his crusades years ago.
The four of us have been talking as we drive and as we eat meals together. It has been a great experience of sharing what we are hearing and learning and as we are listening to God for the future of the Rural Church Pastors Network. God has great things in store. We believe it. We are looking ahead with great anticipation!